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moonchildhippy Group: Members Posts: 1807 Joined: Dec. 2004 Posted: Aug. 27 2005, 19:14 Does your partner (if you have one) like to listen to Mike's music. I've not long finished playing  Hergest Ridge,  all I got were moans and groans about "Mike  F**king Oldfield"   from my husband, and how obsessed |I am with Mike, apparently l his carers go on about "my obsession with Mike" (My husband has MS) .  On the contrary if I was so obsessed with Mike I wouldn't be able to do anything else all day, or play music by other artists, this last week I've played a great deal of Pink Floyd,  also Queen, Rolling Stones, Sky , Beatles, hardly so obsessive about Mike. If I do play Mike's music I usually end up playing it in the car, I rarely get the house(well bungalow to myself).  I do go on about Kington and Hergest Ridge so much, but to me they  equal complete freedom   .   For my birthday in July I received "The MO DVD Collection"  have only played each DVD once,  DVD player in Tim's bedroom , bought as a present for Tim last year. The 1971 Demos of |Tubular Bells I nearly played twice ,  (great stuff so raw and emotional , did make me cry  , I'll see if I can burn this onto CD) .   I do wish He'd give a little more.  With his moans and groans about Mike I don't play his music as often  as I'd like.    Do I have grounds for a divorce???       Over to you, does your partner like Mike's music??? -------------- I'm going slightly mad, It finally happened, I'm slightly mad , just very slightly mad If you feel a little glum to Hergest Ridge you should come. I'm challenging  taboos surrounding mental health "Part time hippy" I'M SUPPORTING OUR SOLDIERS BRING OUR TROOPS HOME NOW!! Back to top

TubularBelle Group: Members Posts: 1487 Joined: April 2004 Posted: Aug. 28 2005, 01:22 I was talking about this is the 'a little story' thread. My partner is away over 60 hours a week so I have enough time to listen to Mikes entire collection two or three times over every week. I prefer listening to him without interruptions except when I get a new album and want to share it and I would like to have a romantic evening to Mikes music but have never had the pleasure in 5 years! My partner use to like Mike when I introduced him to it but is now tired of it which would imply that I am obsessed, but I spend more time on here than I do listening to Mikes music, which is maybe 5 to 10 hours a week. Yes I think it is grounds for divorce -------------- I hate getting up early. I didn't even realise there were two 6 o'clocks in one day! Back to top

Sysiyo Group: Members Posts: 245 Joined: Feb. 2003 Posted: Aug. 28 2005, 04:33 When I first started listening to Mike's music, my girlfriend strongly disliked it. She would usually be moaning about how I was listening to it too much and how it wasn't good. Partially this might be because she mostly prefers music with vocals (whereas I tend to prefer instrumentals). These days, approx three years later, she likes Mike's music a lot. I wouldn't call her a fan as such, but she has started making positive remarks of the music so things aren't all bad. Back to top

moonchildhippy Group: Members Posts: 1807 Joined: Dec. 2004 Posted: Aug. 28 2005, 06:02 Quote (TubularBelle @ Aug. 28 2005, 06:22) Yes I think it is grounds for divorce Tim did say last night that "Mike Oldfield's destroyed my marriage"     .  I'm confused.   I haven't even met Mike,  so how could this happen??? .  Fancy blaming poor innocent Mike. -------------- I'm going slightly mad, It finally happened, I'm slightly mad , just very slightly mad If you feel a little glum to Hergest Ridge you should come. I'm challenging  taboos surrounding mental health "Part time hippy" I'M SUPPORTING OUR SOLDIERS BRING OUR TROOPS HOME NOW!! Back to top

bugular tell Group: Members Posts: 482 Joined: Mar. 2003 Posted: Aug. 28 2005, 06:41 Destroyed your marriage????? Thats a little harsh, preveous partners of mine have not liked Mikes music, but i in turn have not really liked there tastes so that was fair enough, i have recently met a fantastic woman who is a 9 years younger than me, so i thought i would have a hard time introducing her to Mikes music, she'd heard of TB and Moonlight Shadow, but that was it, so i have played her some stuff and she really likes it, in fact she is going to buy TB and quite liked TSODE, its kind of strange to be with someone that likes the music i like, although she is a Coldplay fanatic, were talking major fan, but thats cool with me, i like them, as i collect as much Mike stuff as i can, we have a common interest, im sure she'll get bored of me and my music oneday tho! hehe -------------- Light travels faster than sound, thats why some people appear bright until you hear them speak Back to top

The Bell(end) Group: Members Posts: 1051 Joined: July 2005 Posted: Aug. 28 2005, 09:12 Quote (Sysiyo @ Aug. 28 2005, 09:33) When I first started listening to Mike's music, my girlfriend strongly disliked it. She would usually be moaning about how I was listening to it too much and how it wasn't good. Partially this might be because she mostly prefers music with vocals (whereas I tend to prefer instrumentals). These days, approx three years later, she likes Mike's music a lot. I wouldn't call her a fan as such, but she has started making positive remarks of the music so things aren't all bad. My girlfriend generally finds Mike's music ok, apparently some of it is depressing so she prefers the shorter upbeat tunes like 'On Horseback' and 'Portsmouth' I would never try to force her to like it, maybe I have inadvertently in the past though   -------------- When the night's on fi-ya, do you need love's arms to hold yew? :D Back to top

timshen Group: Members Posts: 684 Joined: Mar. 2001 Posted: Aug. 28 2005, 10:43 I just listen to Mike's music with headphones - that way I can get no complaints from my wife (well - only compliants that i'm anti-social lol).   -------------- Expect Great Things. Attempt Great Things. Back to top

Bill Bobaggins Group: Members Posts: 477 Joined: June 2005 Posted: Aug. 28 2005, 10:46 I, unfortunately, am married to a man who really dislikes music all together.  I can't comprehend it really, but that's the way it is.  Says it gives him a headache, regardless of what kind of music it is.  Thank goodness for headphones. -------------- Speak friend and enter. Back to top

familyjules Group: Members Posts: 1190 Joined: May 2004 Posted: Aug. 28 2005, 16:14 My other 'alf has made positive comments about Incantations, but Amarok was deemed a little too unsetling! Jules -------------- I like beer and I like cheese Back to top

moonchildhippy Group: Members Posts: 1807 Joined: Dec. 2004 Posted: Aug. 28 2005, 18:30 Quote (timshen @ Aug. 28 2005, 15:43) I just listen to Mike's music with headphones - that way I can get no complaints from my wife (well - only compliants that i'm anti-social lol).   Headphones, what a great idea   , except  Tim is severely disabled, and I need to be on call, the best part of 24/7, if he gets into difficulty in another room. If I used headphones, I'd never hear him call.   I'm feeling worn out by constant care giving. I do listen to his music, much of it, we both mutually like (Pink Floyd, Led Zeppelin,) some of Tim's music I find a little to way out (Frank Zappa), but when it comes to Mike or for that matter Queen, I rarely get to play their music at home. I admit as I'd  played Hergest Ridge last night I was bloody livid , at his Mike F**king Oldfield comment.   When I challenged him over his "MO destroyed my marriage" remark last night, his reply was, it's MY fault for constantly going on about Mike, Kington and Hergest Ridge   .  Maybe my weeks holiday in Kington, and  walking along Hergest Ridge, was a revelation to me     . -------------- I'm going slightly mad, It finally happened, I'm slightly mad , just very slightly mad If you feel a little glum to Hergest Ridge you should come. I'm challenging  taboos surrounding mental health "Part time hippy" I'M SUPPORTING OUR SOLDIERS BRING OUR TROOPS HOME NOW!! Back to top

Ostach Group: Members Posts: 71 Joined: June 2004 Posted: Aug. 28 2005, 18:37 I wish my One and Only would like Mike... if only I had one... (The One and Only, not Mike ) in general I know only one or two girls in love with Mike's music... -------------- I stay I pray See you in heaven one day... Back to top

bee Group: Members Posts: 1227 Joined: Jan. 2004 Posted: Aug. 28 2005, 18:38 I'd say my husband is not a fan of Mike Oldfield. He likes music generally but does not 'listen' to it if you know what I mean. He does, however, understand how important it is to me and I am lucky he does I suppose. Infact, a couple of years ago I had to go into hospital for an operation and I was really scared (all fine now). My husband took me in and it wasn't until he'd gone home that I opened my bag and found inside a portable cd player and every Mike oldfield cd I owned at the time. He hadn't told me he'd done that but he knew what I needed most at that time. But he does get ever so slightly green when I just have to listen and can't concentrate on anything else!! -------------- ....second to the right and straight on till morning.... You heard me before Yet you hear me again Then I die Till I call me again Back to top

TubularBelle Group: Members Posts: 1487 Joined: April 2004 Posted: Aug. 29 2005, 02:03 Quote (moonchildhippy @ Aug. 28 2005, 18:30) Headphones, what a great idea   , except  Tim is severely disabled, and I need to be on call, the best part of 24/7, if he gets into difficulty in another room. If I used headphones, I'd never hear him call.   I'm feeling worn out by constant care giving. I admit as I'd  played Hergest Ridge last night I was bloody livid , at his Mike F**king Oldfield comment.   When I challenged him over his "MO destroyed my marriage" remark last night, his reply was, it's MY fault for constantly going on about Mike, Kington and Hergest Ridge   .  Maybe my weeks holiday in Kington, and  walking along Hergest Ridge, was a revelation to me     . Is your husband mentally disabled? that is a sincere question because it would explain his outburst. Definitely headphones would not work for you. How can Tim say 'Mike destroyed our marriage' if you are still married? Surely he must understand what a strain being a full-time carer must be and he should be so grateful he should let you listen to police sirens all day if that is what turned you on. It sounds to me like he feels shame and guilt for being such a burdon and is reacting emotionally, best to ignore it. Can't you get part time help and then you can lay in your room or go to the beach with a portable stereo and headphones. -------------- I hate getting up early. I didn't even realise there were two 6 o'clocks in one day! Back to top

Baggiesfaninessex Group: Members Posts: 682 Joined: Mar. 2002 Posted: Aug. 29 2005, 05:47 Quote (bee @ Aug. 28 2005, 18:38) I'd say my husband is not a fan of Mike Oldfield. He likes music generally but does not 'listen' to it if you know what I mean. He does, however, understand how important it is to me and I am lucky he does I suppose. Infact, a couple of years ago I had to go into hospital for an operation and I was really scared (all fine now). My husband took me in and it wasn't until he'd gone home that I opened my bag and found inside a portable cd player and every Mike oldfield cd I owned at the time. He hadn't told me he'd done that but he knew what I needed most at that time. But he does get ever so slightly green when I just have to listen and can't concentrate on anything else!! That shows a kindness and understanding you must be very proud of. On the subject of Mike's music, people either 'get it' or they don't. I like listening to music uninterrupted so I can absorb every note and sound. This, I guess, is what can cause issues as it can be deemed quite unsociable to do so. It also makes me a bit of a closet anorak. Who cares?!   My wife doesn't enjoy his music. But she accepts that I do and has given up complaining as over time, there is a realisation that it won't change anything if she does. The compromise is that I don't insist she listens too, try to convert her into a fan and she doesn't object or complain when I do listen - the same goes for around 50% of my CD collection!   -------------- “A dog is not intelligent. Never trust an animal that's surprised by its own farts.” - Frank Skinner Back to top

moonchildhippy Group: Members Posts: 1807 Joined: Dec. 2004 Posted: Aug. 29 2005, 09:19 Quote (TubularBelle @ Aug. 29 2005, 07:03) Is your husband mentally disabled? that is a sincere question because it would explain his outburst. How can Tim say 'Mike destroyed our marriage' if you are still married? Surely he must understand what a strain being a full-time carer must be and he should be so grateful he should let you listen to police sirens all day if that is what turned you on. It sounds to me like he feels shame and guilt for being such a burdon and is reacting emotionally, best to ignore it. Can't you get part time help and then you can lay in your room or go to the beach with a portable stereo and headphones. No, Tim has only been diagnosed with a physical disability, MS. Good question TubularBelle, I don't see Mike could have destroyed our marriage too,  I guess Mike is being used as a scapegoat here!!!   Re the emotional abuse , it's difficult to ignore, when it's so frequent.  Yes I admit it must be frustrating not being able to do things for yourself that most folk take for granted, but that doesn't excuse bad behaviour.  Yes I know relationships take a great deal of work, and nobody's perfect, I've made a few mistakes. If a relationship isn't based on mutual respect, then IMHO, something has to change. Do get help from Social Services,  overall about 27 hours a week, but he really needs professional paid care workers. -------------- I'm going slightly mad, It finally happened, I'm slightly mad , just very slightly mad If you feel a little glum to Hergest Ridge you should come. I'm challenging  taboos surrounding mental health "Part time hippy" I'M SUPPORTING OUR SOLDIERS BRING OUR TROOPS HOME NOW!! Back to top

Tati The Sentinel Group: Members Posts: 3360 Joined: Feb. 2002 Posted: Aug. 29 2005, 10:28 My boyfriend didn't know about MO previously and he's a prog rock fan for ages,and I remember the day I was listening to Amarok and he shouted out loud how much that music rocked. Later on I showed a lot of other Mike's stuff and now he's a fan. -------------- "But it's always the outsider, the black sheep, that becomes the blockbuster." - Mike Oldfield, 2014 "I remember feeling that I'd been judged unfairly and that I was going to prove them wrong." - Peter Davison, 2011 Back to top

The Big BellEnd Group: Members Posts: 971 Joined: Jan. 2004 Posted: Aug. 29 2005, 14:21 my wife will listen and not say ya or or nay to mikes music, it's usually in the car that it is listened to by all, and it's really neat when one of the kid's say's,,, turn it up in the back it's not loud enough,,, aaaaah. -------------- I, ON THE OTHER HAND. AM A VICTIM OF YOUR CARNIVOUROUS LUNAR ACTIVITY. Back to top

olracUK Group: Members Posts: 1683 Joined: June 2003 Posted: Aug. 29 2005, 17:21 Well, my wife is a cloth eared nincompoop. The most annoying thing is finding the tape sin the car player have been taken out. But worse are the kids. "Oh no, not again!" comes the cry. I finally got my eldest to admit it was "OK" after he Played TL and Maestro games. So I listen on my own and if the house is empty, at great volume. -------------- The answer is 42 - but what is the question? Back to top

moonchildhippy Group: Members Posts: 1807 Joined: Dec. 2004 Posted: Aug. 29 2005, 18:32 Quote (olracUK @ Aug. 29 2005, 22:21) Well, my wife is a cloth eared nincompoop. The most annoying thing is finding the tape sin the car player have been taken out. But worse are the kids. "Oh no, not again!" comes the cry. I finally got my eldest to admit it was "OK" after he Played TL and Maestro games. So I listen on my own and if the house is empty, at great volume. So I'm not the only one with an other half who dislikes Mike.  It's weird he didn't dislike Mike's music, when I started to really get into it in a big way, but now apparently I'm "obsessed" with Mike, or for that matter Kington, The Beacon and Hergest Ridge, since having a weeks holiday in Kington. I could have gone anywhere scenic, (Devon is another favourite place) that wasn't connected with Mike in some way,  I could come back obsessed with there.  To me that week was a break from the demands of caring.  So Kington and Hergest  Ridge to me means freedom . Yes Mike did live there but that was 30 years ago, not now. As to say Mike "destroyed" his marriage I find totally OTT, if not Mike then my "obsession" with Mike destroyed it .  It takes two people to make a marriage  also Two to destroy it, -------------- I'm going slightly mad, It finally happened, I'm slightly mad , just very slightly mad If you feel a little glum to Hergest Ridge you should come. I'm challenging  taboos surrounding mental health "Part time hippy" I'M SUPPORTING OUR SOLDIERS BRING OUR TROOPS HOME NOW!! Back to top

bonkers Group: Members Posts: 45 Joined: Dec. 2004 Posted: Aug. 30 2005, 18:47 sorry for butting in on this convosation,im very drunk at the moment and ill be honest, i havent read half the posts in this topic,but if u want my advice,sit your husband down and make him listen to tubular bells 2 or one of your favorite pieces of mikes,and if he doesent like it,introcuce him to some of mikes fans(on here) i think alot of people have this problem,trying to introduce people to music that they dont like.just let it drop and listen to it in your own time because people will always find faults with it.on the other hand,listen to it in your own time and think to your self...at least i have an ear for beautiful music   Back to top

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